First Date Ideas

Getting a date can be a terribly stressful situation, however usually once you get the nerve to actually get the date, you need to figure out what to do on it.  The first date is really important as it let’s both parties get to know each other.  It is important to realize that not every date is going to anywhere, if you are lucky you will find that you have things in common like you taste in movies, music,  or sports.  As always, prepare yourself for the realization that you or your date may not be interested in pursuing a relationship.  Just know that this goes with the territory and it is not personal, it just the way a first date can go.

First Date Do’s:

• Go for Drinks – Avoid a first date dinner, going out for drinks is much less committal and places less pressure on your date.  Not to mention drinks can help take the edge off, and if the date is not going well, you can always retire early.
• Look Your Best – Good higene is critical!  Good grooming shows that you actually care about your date, and hopefully they will get close enough to see just how much.
• Mind your P’s and Q’s – Manners, manners, manners.  Be polite, say “please” and “thank you”, when talking to your date and others.  Manners show that you are not an ass, and are actually a kind person that may care for others.  You definitely can’t go wrong by showing that you care for other on your date, and who knows, maybe it will make you a better person.
• Get a Hug – When you first get together, for for a hug.  The initial hug will help break down any physical barriers and will help break the ice.
• Ask Questions – Asking questions of your date, shows that you are interested in who they are and what they do.  Asking questions also keeps you from droning on about yourself, if they don’t ask about it, don’t bore them to death about it.

First Date Don’ts:

• Don’t go to a location where you will run into many friends, it will draw your attention from your date and can be very overwhelming  and intimidating for your date.
• Don’t go to the movies on your first date, there is very limited opportunity to talk and get to know each other.
• Avoid formal events, it always better to do something were you can be yourself in a casual setting.
• Don’t talk on your cell phone.  Taking a phone call and having a conversation is a major red flag.  If you are into your date, you will give them your attention not someone who can leave you a message.
• Don’t lie or exaggerate!  If you didn’t spend the summer in Spain, don’t tell them you did.  If the date goes well and you spend more time with your date, they will find out the truth and it will destroy your chances of any type of relationship.  If they don’t like you for who you are, it will never work out.